Those threads on RD about dominance and submission were incredibly useful for me.Those of you who participated gave me great information.
I learned that my ex-husband, who was domineering, was not dominant. I learned that I'm a sexual submissive. And boy, am I! And Ray, Alexander, and some others said the same thing over and over when asked what made someone a good dom? "A good dom is a good human being," one of them said.
I didn't know what that meant, because I had no experience with it. But I understand it now. My husband is a good man. He was my best friend and then he was my husband. He's also my owner. And because is such a very good friend anf good man, he is also just the right dom for me.