Crossing boundaries will usually end in seeing why I am who I am.
Crossing which boundaries: Your sub crossing yours or you crossing his/hers? And who is it who sees why you are who you are? And what exactly does that mean?
Sorry for the interrogation; I caught a whiff of something in what you said. It's probably nothing.
I am interested to know what it is that you caught a whiff of?
I am speaking specifically to crossing boundaries from many sides. I am involveed in the local community and protect a fair bit of subs/slaves/pets/etc. I have seen a "wannabe" dom cross personal and party boundaries. That is when THAT person sees why I am who I am...the protector.
In my personal relationships, I have very few boundaries at all. The ones I do have are set in stone and hard limits. Things like cheating...and well...cheating. Cross them, and the side of me that will no longer care for you as I once did will be shown. That is what I meant as well. I make all attempts to not cross boundaries and thus far think Ive done a good job of that. I am a Daddy Dom amongst other things, so crossing hard limits and boundaries isn't in my nature.
What I originally saw there, and what Ella seems to have seen as well, was (refer to the ginger bit above): "If a sub crosses any of the boundaries I set for her
, she's going to get a beating." Maybe you were going for the tough Daddy Dom language that would appeal to a little, but Ella and I come from abusive backgrounds and are sensitised to see threats. In this case, as Ella said, it was nothing.
I think my worries will be cured as I get to know you better, Wiz. You sound like a top chap to me.