To kind of add to Ray's post.
There is nothing sexier than a man who understands a womans body-as in he will ask,listen,and then put that into practice
I've lost count of men who I have slept with who uttered the glorious words 'Well my last Girlfriend loved it'-not getting the fact that I wasn't his last girlfriend-I'm me,and what sends one woman over the edge doesn't mean all women will.
I love having the insides of my arms stroked-don't ask me why I don't know,but just a very gentle stroking of that area turns my legs to jelly.
For me it isn't just all physical-an emotional connection and feeling that he's actually enjoying my body and my responses all does it for me,if I'm moaning and writhing on the bed-well you're doing something right!
Course it should be said that not all men like the same either,I had a Boyfriend that just wasn't interested in anything other than having his cock touched right from the start,he didn't want or need any other part of him touched-that just did it for him-yet others have only wanted slight touching or they'd explode!.
We have a saying here that the worst lovers are the BBC Brigade...
That's Breast,Breast,Clit-and then they bang you...