First off as S2U said at the start of this thread 'And just an FYI - I do not ever wish this upon anyone in real life' And I am sorry for all of us that have had to go through abuse IRL.
I do have these fantasies, not exactly like S2U's but if you look at a few of my posts where she is captured, trained and kept as a sex slave or treasured pet it is basically the same thing in my mind. She is mine to do with as I please and she will be sorry in some way for disobeying my wishes or for displeasing me in any way.
In case it isn't clear this is fantasy for me...
Again as S2U said in her first post 'I don't know if it's a submissive thing with me, but I crave being frightened, scared, overpowered, etc. by a man. Not just in the bedroom, but outside of it too. Sometimes I want to be that 1950's wife that has to do everything that the husband says'
For me it is all about being that Dominant (Abusive) Man, of taking control of her and making her mine in every way possible. It is a nice fantasy for me but one I would never want to be IRL.