However, this is a rape fantasy site and it goes without saying that we're going to discuss various aspects of rape, sometimes in graphic detail.
Whenever someone says that it lends me to be believe that one should accept the status quo, and bases the assumption everyone is here for the same reason which, in my opinion, is not true.
It's also a fact that a fairly good percentage of our female members have survived rape or sexual assault themselves, or have suffered some form of sexual abuse. That said, there's no way to know what is going to trigger someone; it could be the discussion of an abusive relationship, or talking about being raped by an ex-lover, or being tied up in a certain way, or reading a certain phrase that the perpetrator whispered to the victim that may cause that memory to suddenly explode to the surface.
Are you then saying that rape survivors shouldn't be here?
I'm not trying to make light of any of this; however, it should be said that if you have survived a traumatic experience and you willingly enter a situation in which that trauma might be relived, such as a rape victim logging into a rape fantasy website or a soldier suffering from PTSD watching a war movie, you need to go in with both eyes open and your skin as thick as possible. You also have to go in with the understanding that NOBODY on this site is out there wishing to cause anyone else on this site further suffering; if that memory is triggered, it wasn't done intentionally. It simply is a by-product of what is discussed here. I think most of the members understand that and deal with it.
Most do, you're right, but that does leave the rest who do not as invalid with their stances and life stories. Telling someone to go in with thick skin is easy to say, but very tough to do.
My point in responding to you Carlos is this: People join this site for a plethora of reasons, and unless Ray and Addie decide to do a screening process to select who can post and who cannot, there will be people who will find something offensive about something someone else wrote. You say it's a by-product and it is. Yet telling them to have thick skin is a cop-out. Yes, they need to be informed of what is being written here, but if they didn't have thick skin signing up it's not going to magically appear because someone says it should. They either had it before signing up or they didn't.
Which means this board either welcomes all or they don't. From the looks of things since I've been here, they welcome all. Which means they have prepared themselves for when people don't along, or get offended, or upset, or when a terrible memory was triggered from their past. If people want to be intense with their fantasies by all means, but it goes the other way too. People have the right to not like something they have read and they shouldn't be silenced or fed the line "It's a rape FANTASY forum" because they did so.